I will if you will.
You write down what you'd love them to do. They do the same for you. Agree what each thing's worth, then go and earn it.
Then it's a deal.
Free to start. If you want the whole jar, only one of you pays.
Everything in here, you both said yes to.
Cook dinner, start to finish.
3Watch the film I keep going on about.
2Plan us an evening out.
5A slow morning, no rush.
10A film night, my pick.
15Tickets to something I would love.
20Adam has 10 points. Enough for the hour.
Come running with me, just once.
3Our photos into an album.
5Cook your family's recipe for me.
4Breakfast in bed.
10Lunch somewhere new.
15An evening out, all arranged.
20Sara has 8 points. Two short of breakfast in bed.
You earn points doing what they asked for and spend them on what you asked for. A reward always costs more than a single wish, so you save up instead of swapping.
How it works
Two lists each, and you decide what everything's worth.
It takes about five minutes to set up. Most of that is agreeing what things are worth, and that's the fun bit.
You both write your lists
Ten things you'd like them to do, five you'd like back. They write theirs the other way round, and nothing goes in until you've both said yes.
You agree what it's worth
Cooking dinner might be worth 3 points and a night out 15. You settle every number together, and if one of you thinks it's too much, you say so before it goes in.
Somebody goes and earns it
Work through their list. One of you marks a wish granted, the other says yes, and the points move. When you've saved enough, claim the thing you asked for and pick an actual date for it.
The point was never the list. The point is Friday night.
Perfectly even
You both set it up. Nobody's in charge.
If you've tried a chore app before, it probably died on your phone. Most do, because one person ends up running it. Here you write their list, they write yours, and neither of you can add anything on your own.
Nothing lands on you that you didn't agree to, and nobody has to keep reminding anyone.
Starting off
You don't start from a blank page.
There's a pile of suggestions to get you going. After that it's your handwriting. What you write stays in your jar, and nobody reads it but the two of you.
The quiet parts
It's a jar, not a household management system.
Set it up once and it stays out of your way.
Just the two of you. Nobody else, ever.
No ads, and there never will be.
Miss a month and nothing's lost.
Points are gone once they're spent. There's no all-time score.
Finish something and there's room for the next one.
One of you pays. Both of you are in.
The keepsake
One more jar, and it only takes your change.
When you collect something, you can hand over everything you've got instead of the exact price, and the difference drops in here. That's the only way anything gets in.
Near the start you each write one note to the other and seal it. You can't change it afterwards, and you can't read your own. Months later, when the change has added up, both notes open at once.
What it costs
Start free. Pay when you want the whole jar.
The free jar is a real one, with no clock on it. One wish each and one reward each at a time, and someone actually gets what they asked for. Paying buys you more room, and the say over what everything's worth.
The free jar is a jar, not a countdown.
It keeps working for as long as you want it. Nothing expires, nobody gets locked out, and you can get a real reward without ever paying us. Paying just makes the jar bigger.
Questions
The things worth knowing first.
Who writes what?
You write the ten things you'd like them to do, and they write the five rewards they'd like from you. Then the same again the other way round. Everything in the jar was asked for by the person who wants it.
Why ten wishes and five rewards?
Ten keeps their list worth reading, and five keeps the rewards worth saving for. Finish one and there's room for another, so there's always something to go at.
Who decides what something is worth?
The two of you, together, in the whole jar (in the free jar the numbers are set for you). A wish is worth 1 to 5 and a reward costs 10 to 20. One of you suggests a number, the other agrees or suggests another, and it goes in once you both land on the same one. Nothing goes in on one person's say-so.
What can we put in it?
Anything you both agree on. The app has suggestions to get you started, and after that it's up to you.
What happens when a reward is claimed?
Whoever claims it picks the day, within the next ten. The other one can move it to a day that suits them better, still inside those ten, so it actually happens.
Do we both have to be in it?
Yes, that's the whole idea. Two lists, two sets of rewards, and both of you saying yes to everything that goes in.
What do we get for free?
One wish each and one reward each at a time, with no time limit on it. Finish one and there's room for the next. We set the numbers so you don't have to: a wish is worth 2 and a reward costs 10, so five wishes and it's yours, every time. Everything else works the same, apart from the keepsake jar, and nothing expires.
What is the keepsake jar?
A jar you fill with loose change. When you collect a reward you can hand over what you have instead of the exact price, and the difference drops in. Near the start you each write one note to the other and seal it, and when the jar is full both notes open at once. Nobody has to deliver anything, it costs nothing, and you can't read your own until it opens. It comes with the whole jar.
Can we just pay once and be done?
Yes. €99.99 once and nothing renews, so there's nothing to cancel. Or €49.99 a year, which is 40% less than paying €6.99 a month. Whichever you pick, only one of you ever pays. There is no second charge for your partner and nothing for them to buy.
What if we stop paying, or go our separate ways?
Your sealed notes are never held back. If you stop paying, the jar gets smaller again but nothing is lost, and you can still open the notes together. If you part ways, the one who paid keeps the full app and the other one can leave. And if the app ever closes, you get twelve months of notice and a copy of your jar.
Who can see it?
Just the two of you. No feed, no profiles, nobody else to invite. Notifications never show what's written on a slip, so nothing turns up on a lock screen.